Jealousy doesn't just exist in love! It can crop up in friendships and be just as destructive. Here's our advice on understanding and preventing jealousy.
How is jealousy born?
Jealousy is a feeling like any other emotion, that often crops up in love but also in friendship. When we give our friendship to someone, we also give them an important place in our lives. The friendship is based on a notion of sharing, exchange and satisfaction, and it also places us in a situation of dependence with the person. When this relationship is being built and in the case of fusional relationships .We can worry that it wil disappear, and a feeling of insecurity is born that can little by little transform into jealousy if we feel the friend is distancing themself or trying to escape.
The object of jealousy
Jealousy can take different forms but it is rarely found without an object. We're not jealous without reason: whether we admit it or not, the object of our jealousy is often well known to us. We can be jealous of a situation for example (our best friend's top job or promotion) of trivial things (her hair or designer wardrobe) or be jealous of another friend who threatens our friendship.
A revealing feeling
Whatever its intensity, jealousy is synonymous with unease and can reveal a lot about our state of mind, our needs, mental state and general attitude to life. It also tells us about the way that we manage our emotions and the relationship in question, whether it’s friendship or love. Jealousy can reveal a situation of rivalry or a possessive attitude.
Channelling your emotions
Whether we feel it or suffer it, jealousy can soon become oppressive if it gets out of hand. It is a normal feeling but must be channelled and controlled for the future of a relationship and for the wellbeing of each person, because jealousy can be a source of conflict and lead to animosity. It can even, in certain cases, be downright destructive, especially if it is transformed into unhealthy possessiveness or the opposite, deep hate. This is why jealousy must be expressed in a positive and constructive way, so that it allows us to progress and improve.
When jealousy helps us to progress
So that jealousy does not overcome us it must be honestly analysed. Putting a finger on the problem allows us to react to it. Rather than envy your friend’s fab job, why not use this energy to negotiate a pay rise, or find a job that's better suited to your ambitions? It can also be the trigger that kick starts that diet you've been putting off. Whatever the object, jealousy should always be thought of as a motor that gives us the energy that we lack to take control of things and change what we don't like about ourselves and our lives.
How to overcome jealousy?
Admitting jealousy is already a step forward. But to control and overcome it, you need a lot of investment and sometimes a lot of time.
- Why am I jealous?
Where does this feeling come from? What is it hiding? Do I have good reasons to be jealous? Ask yourself the right questions: analysing the situation well is important because only you know the responses and can find the solution.
- Express yourself.
Jealousy often reveals fear (of losing a friend, for example) or lack of self-confidence. Putting your feelings into words is another step to healing: it will get it all out and help diffuse a weighty situation. And who knows: your friend may have the same feelings, so talk about how you feel!
- Act.
You don't get something from nothing, so to turn the object of your jealousy into an object of joy and personal pride, you need to work at it. This task requires energy and courage, so don’t be afraid to ask your friend for help. That's what friends are there for - and it will strengthen your friendship and trust.
Jealousy in Friendship Relation..
How to maintain lifelong friendships?
Maintaining lifelong friendship or relationship is not an easy mission for that we have to takes few effort and energy. Making a friend is not an easy task but maintaining lifelong friendships is really a difficult task for you because after the collage days your are really get busy in to your profession mean in your job, family member, your daily and busy schedule make it not possible you to keep in touch with your friends.
Finding a new friend is so difficult for you but keep in touch with your old friend is as important for you. Maintaining your true friendship requires effort.
Maintaining strong friendship definitely takes a lot of effort. If you do not have any close friends then you try to remember your old friendship. Making a new friends it takes lot of time for you to get to know each other.
When you are trying to understand another person means you are taking an interest in that persons like thoughts and feelings. Mean you are trying to entered him/his life of another person. In this case, it would seem that you live not only yourself but also for your friends.
How to maintain lifelong friendships?
Well your friendship is the most satisfying, happiest and maybe still gainful scheme that you always undertake in your lifetime. Everyone needs friends. Friends help you in many ways.
If you want to maintain your friendships like lifelong for that you have to take some efforts to keep in touch with your friend.
-Truly take care about your friend and your friendships. Some people never take care about there friendship. Care in the sense cheerful or happy and solve him or her problem. So please take care about your friends relationship.
-If you think that your friends is more important then family member, then no problem make your decision or decided that whom you want to keep for life.
-Your good quality make your friendship strong like understanding him or her, giving a right advice, taking a care but also look those friends who really respect your inner qualities.
-For maintain lifelong friendships you also require to remember him or her birthday, weeding date, anniversaries date, office joining date and other thinks which is most important.
-Try to call your friend once a month and show him or her that you really want to keep friendships as lifelong.
-Give some gifts to your friend and finding a proper time for your friends should never be a problem.
-Try to avoid non judgmental behavior and take an interest and give a proper advise or suggestion means what is a best for your friend. Non judgmental create a misunderstanding in your relationship.
-Try to avoid continuous finding fault in your friend. If you think that your friend must want to improve in some ways then tell him or her politely. Finding a continuous fault create irritation.
-Try to engages with your friends like fun activities, sports activity, an occasional movie. Your friendships can give you lot of time to understand each other.
-Friendship is forever, so always take care, be there for your friendships, be prepared to listen to him or her.
FIH Men's Junior World Cup 2009 Malaysia-Singapore
FIH Men's Junior World Cup 2009
Date: June 7-21 2009
Venues: The tournament will be co-host in Johor Bahru, Malaysia and Singapore
Taman Daya Hockey Stadium, Johor Bahru
Seng Kang Sports and Recreation Center, Singapore
Final Standings
| 1. Germany 2. Netherlands 3. Australia 4. New Zealand 5. Pakistan 6. Argentina 7. Korea 8. Spain 9. India 10.Poland | 11.Belgium 12. Malaysia 13. Japan 14. Egypt 15. S. Africa 16. England 17. Chile 18. Russia 19. Singapore 20. USA |
Man of the match: Floran Fuchs (GER)
Top-scorer: Mink van der Weerden (NED)
Best GK: Niklas Sakowsky (GER)
Player of the tournament: Simon Child (NZL)
Fairplay Award: GermanyPrevious winners
| Year | Venue | Winner | Runner-up | Third Place | Fourth Place |
| 1979 | Versailles, France | Pakistan | Germany | Netherlands | Malaysia |
| 1982 | Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia | Germany | Australia | Pakistan | Malaysia |
| 1985 | Vancouver, Canada | Germany | Netherlands | Pakistan | Malaysia |
| 1989 | Ipoh, Malaysia | Germany | Australia | Pakistan | Korea |
| 1993 | Terrassa, Spain | Germany | Pakistan | Australia | Netherlands |
| 1997 | Milton Keynes, England | Australia | India | Germany | England |
| 2001 | Hobart, Australia | India | Argentina | Germany | England |
| 2005 | Rotterdam, Netherlands | Argentina | Australia | Spain | India |
| 2009 | Singapore/Johor Bahru, Malaysia Netherlands | Germany | Netherlands | Australia | New Zealand |
New Semester Come Back...
Hello again. A new semester will back in a few week from now. I can't believe it my vacation in the end and I have back to Kuala Lumpur to continue my study. Leave again my lovely family, beautiful house and my bestfriends for my studies. I hope with my vacation I can get back my spiritual to study because before I end last semester many bad thing will happen to me and make my motivation to study is very low. After long rest make me interested to study again and I hope my preparation for final exam in end this semester is smooth. To all my classmate, wait me and my newself make trouble in college(haha). Maybe without the other boys I can life with shark (my classmate girls) to finish my study until the end(haha).Bye.